Showing posts with label Advice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Advice. Show all posts

Thursday, February 7, 2013

Global 2013: Sex-Drive Killers

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Sex-Drive Killer: Unresolved Issues
Unresolved relationship problems are one of the most common killers of sex drive. For women in particular, emotional closeness is a major ingredient in sexual desire. Simmering arguments, poor communication, betrayal of trust, and other barriers to intimacy can steer your sex drive off the road.

Sex-Drive Killer: Alcohol
A drink or two doesn't always put you in the mood. Alcohol famously makes you feel less inhibited about sex.

Sex-Drive Killer: Too Little Sleep
If your sexual get-up-and-go is gone, maybe you're getting up too early or getting to bed too late. Or maybe you have insomnia or sleep apnea.

Sex-Drive Killer: Parenting
Parenting itself doesn't kill sex drive. But it can be hard to find time to be intimate when the kids are under foot. Hire a baby sitter for some time to nurture your relationship.

Sex-Drive Killer: Medication
Drugs commonly linked to libido loss include:
Antidepressants
Blood pressure medications
Antihistamines
Oral contraceptives (some studies show a link; others don't)
Chemotherapy
Anti-HIV drugs
Finasteride
Synthetic progesterone-medroxyprogesterone

Sex Drive Killer: Poor Body Image
It's hard to feel sexy if your self-esteem suffers from poor body image. For example, feeling ashamed of being too heavy (even if you're not) will douse your love light. If your partner has these feelings, it can really help to reassure him or her that you still find him/her sexy. And there's a flip side to the equation: Working out not only enhances your self-esteem, but also ups your sex ...

Sex-Drive Killer: Obesity
Being overweight or obese is linked to a lack of sexual enjoyment, desire, and difficulties with sexual performance.

Sex-Drive Killer: Erectile Dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a different kind of sexual disorder than loss of libido (a medical term for loss of sex drive).


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Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Global 2012: “Here’s why I always get the guy...”

The Good Guys
The Good Guys (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Ever wonder what that woman — the one who’s always surrounded by men and who lands dates left and right — has that you don’t? We did, too, so we polled man-magnets around the country for their tried-and-true tips for attracting men. Below, read their secrets on getting — and keeping — the guy:

Bring the “A” team
“If I go out with the intention of meeting guys, I never go out with more than two girlfriends. In my opinion, there’s nothing more annoying to guys (at least, the ones looking for something other than a fling) than a gaggle of giggling girls. I make sure that the friends I go out with are great wing-women — attractive friends who I can count on to be up for a good, drama-free evening — whether we meet guys or not. Whenever I go out with this type of group, the guys are drawn to us like flies to honey. There’s something really alluring to guys about a small group of cool, confident, classy women.”

Learn how to relax
“Here’s my one rule: Don’t be totally focused on ‘getting the guy.’ I think that scares them off! Be happy with your own life, be busy with it, and think of a guy as the icing on the cake — not vital, but a nice bonus. Guys pick up on this laid-back attitude and don’t feel as if you want or need anything from them… and then they’re interested!”

Laughter is the best medicine
“It’s always been my theory that guys love when you laugh at their jokes — or just simply act as if they’re the funniest people on Earth. It boosts their confidence, and what guy doesn’t want to be around a woman who makes him feel good? There’s no need to be completely fake about it — just laugh as genuinely as you can when the guy you’re into is clearly looking for laughs, and encourage him to keep going if it seems like he’s on a roll. You’ll be amazed how quickly it will endear guys to you!”

Keep up appearances
“I grew up in the South, where women always take the time to look their best. Even though I live up North now, I haven’t changed my habits. I rarely leave the house — even to go to the gym — without wearing a cute outfit, perfume, makeup and with my hair looking good, and I always keep a loaded cosmetics bag in my purse. I really think guys — especially the ones where I live — appreciate it when a woman looks put together and smells nice. Even when I’m seriously dating someone, I never let my commitment to looking good slide, even as we get comfortable in our relationship.”

Let him do all the chasing
“For me, my version of playing ‘hard to get’ always works. Here’s how I do it: I always make sure that even if I am head-over-heels into a guy, I never let him know — even the slightest bit — that I am. If he calls me, I’ll wait at least three days before calling him back, and when I’m around him, I always act very nonchalant and make sure I talk to others as much as I talk to him. Lastly, I never spill my feelings until at least two weeks after he spills his. I think this leaves a guy always wanting more, and makes him feel like ‘getting’ me is a challenge. Guys like competition and to win, so it’s almost like a game!”

Cast a wide net
“You have to get out there and always go to new places — be they classes, clubs, charity groups. You need new dating pools to meet new guys. If you were looking for a job, you wouldn’t apply over and over again at just one company, right? Same goes with meeting men. Mix up your routine and don’t let it stagnate. There are lots of guys out there, and the more you meet, the more likely you are to find good relationship material.”

Be a good sport
“I have three older brothers — all of whom were huge jocks — so I know about sports just about as much as any guy, and I actually genuinely love watching games. I think guys love when a girl can talk about their favorite team or knowledgeably tease them about why her favorite team is superior. The key to using sports knowledge to impress guys is to not be ‘one of the guys’ when you do it — no guy wants to date someone that could just as easily be one of his male friends. Instead, be a feminine, sexy woman who loves sports and shows up in a hot outfit — not wearing a jersey with your face painted! If you’re clueless when it comes to sports, get one of your guy friends to teach you — pronto!”

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Thursday, August 16, 2012

Global 2012: Is Sex on First Date a Good Idea?

Hot Dan the Mustard Man (July 1941) .....item ...Hot Dan the Mustard Man (July 1941) .....item 1..Dating Maze #350: Digital Pursuit -- We wish you success in navigating the digital dating maze (January 20, 2012 / 25 Tevet 5772) ... (Photo credit: marsmet544)Would you like to know how a novel ends before starting to read it?

Would you like it if someone told you who was going to win Masterchef season 4, before you could see it for yourself? No. None of us would. There is a reason why we prefer going on the journey, rather than abruptly landing at our destination. When you’re planning a vacation everything counts: the struggle to find a suitable destination that caters to everyone travelling; booking of tickets; applying for a leave at work; telling family and friends of your plans; the excitement and exhaustion of packing; arrival of passports with visa stamps; holding the foreign currency in your hands; driving to the airport; taking your seats in the flight; arriving at your destination; breathing in the sights, sounds, and smells; exploring the glitzy airport and so on, so forth. Every element of this process contributes towards maximizing your pleasure.

If you sleep with someone on the first date, you’ve killed the mystery right there. There’s so much you will be missing out on. The pleasure of getting to know that person; back and forth flirting; the first goodnight kiss at her door; the teasing; the seduction; on the third or fourth date, the sexual tension; the big question in your head: will she or won’t she invite me back to her place? Then the awaited crescendo, the thrill, the pleasure of seeing each other naked; sleeping together; waking up next to each other in the morning. Sex on the first date is like having the dessert without savouring the soup, the starters, and the main course.

There is a reason why there are stages for everything in life: no one gets to play for India the day they pick up a bat or a ball. There are steps to be followed: galli cricket, school level, college level, state level and finally, if you’re good, you get to play for the national team. If every day was Sunday, would we appreciate Sunday as much as we do now, at the end of a long, tiring week?

The reason why sex on the first date is strictly advised against is purely because you don’t know squat about the person. Knowing the person over a course of a few dates, makes it special for the both of you, especially if it’s a girl you really like. It could well be the girl’s idea to head over to her place, but it is up to you to stay strong and refuse. Just a simple: I think we should wait. The fact of the matter is even is she is okay with, in the heat of the moment, or maybe it is the alcohol, or the fact that you have actually turned her on, she will most probably regret it in the morning, seeing herself as someone having jumped too soon into bed. Even she doesn’t feel that way, you ought to act like a gentleman, not a sleazeball who just wants to get into her pants.

Remember, as a child when your dad or your favourite uncle bought you and your brother two bars of chocolate? While you in your eagerness and excitement gobbled it up immediately, your brother ate it leisurely, going mmhm with every bite, teasing you over the course of an entire day, while you stared like a jealous fool, kicking yourself for being so greedy.

Sex is awesome, but it is better when both of you are equally turned on, have waited for a bit, let the juices flow, when you’ve had time to fantasize about it, play it frame by frame in your head. No movie is released without a trailer. That’s because they want to tease you, get you interested, get you Facebooking, Tweeting, talking about it. So when you finally get to see the movie on the 70mm screen, relaxing on cushy leather seats, you are waiting to be blown by it, waiting for the movie to exceed your expectations.

True delight is in treating each of your senses, taking it slow and easy and enjoying every step of the way, like a lovely, expensive glass of wine. Never heard of anyone doing bottoms up with wine.

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Sunday, July 15, 2012

Global 2012: Secrets of Dating Women

Cover of "Secrets To Dating"Cover of Secrets To Dating
Have you ever noticed how most men make dating women much more complicated that it has to be? Are there some secrets to dating women that can help men achieve more success with women and dating, without being a manipulative jerk?

Simple answer: YES.

There are a few simple secrets about dating women that most men will never know. I'm going to reveal these secrets so that you'll be naturally become alluring to women. You'll also never need to worry about all the B.S. that most men go through with women and dating.

Here they are:

Dating Women Secret #1 - Treat her like a "maybe."

When most guys initiate a conversation with a woman, they have one thing in mind: get her phone number, or move things forward in some other way. However, there's a problem with this kind of thinking: the qualification step is missing.

Women are used to qualifying men. But when a man qualifies a woman, it reverses the male-female social dynamic, putting you in the driver's seat and giving you the power of choice.

Screen out the women that aren't right for you right from the start. Ironically, a woman is more likely to open up and show her warmer personality to you when you show her that she needs to prove herself to you first, not the other way around.

Don't skip this qualification step. It'll save you a lot of heartaches in the future. And will also make you a more challenging and attractive man in her eyes.

Dating Women Secret #2 - Date many women

Most of you probably love the idea of dating multiple women at the same time. And many of you probably also think that this is something that most women wouldn't tolerate.

Let's set the record straight. There is nothing wrong with dating multiple women as long as it's done in an honorable way, meaning that you're honest to the woman about what you want in the relationship. Of course, you don't have to directly tell her you're dating other women, but you don't want to lie about it either. So if she asks you if you have a girlfriend, simply say "I'm casually seeing other women, but I haven't found the right one yet." This also takes off the pressure from her.

Most women have no problem casually dating multiple men, so you shouldn't either. Think of this way: How are you going to find Ms. Right if you're not getting out there and dating a lot of women?

The only way to really know what you want in a long term relationship is to date as many women. This also creates a healthier attitude since you're coming from a mindset of abundance, rather than desperation.

Forget that nonsense that she is the "one." There are many beautiful, available women who are also looking to casually date many men as well. Don't jump into an exclusive relationship the second it becomes available. Instead, learn to be comfortable playing the field.

Dating Women Secret #3 - When it's time, move on.

One of the biggest mistakes guys make with dating women is staying in a relationship that they're really not happy in. If at any moment you're thinking that the woman is not right for you, then it's probably a sign that it's time to move on.

When you do decide it's time to let go of a woman, don't go back. A lot of guys will feel a little lonely after a breakup, and will want to get back into the same relationship to give it another shot. This is a mistake.

Do yourself a favor. If you decide to break up with a girlfriend and move on, then stick to it. Date other women. If after dating other women you still feel that she was the right one for you, then you can decide if she's worth pursing again or not.

Don't stay in a relationship for the sake of being afraid to be alone. It's just as good to be single.

Dating Women Secret #4 - Date different "types"

It's tempting to only date your preferred type of women. Maybe you're into blondes. Maybe you're into Asians. Or maybe you're into crazy punk chicks. Whatever your type is, keep in mind that the woman that is most compatible with you might not always be the type you'd expect it to be.

Learn to broaden your horizons. Date different types of women, meaning date different physical types, as well as different personality types.

It's amazing how some guys make it nearly impossible to find a great woman since they're filtering out nearly every woman since they don't fall into their preferred category.

Not only should you be dating multiple women, but you should also be dating different types of women.

There you go. Keep these 4 dating secrets in mind, and you'll live a much more fulfilling and satisfying lifestyle. Don't just wait for the right woman to come along. Sometimes in life, when you want something bad enough, you'll find a way to get it.


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Thursday, June 14, 2012

Global 2012: Things women wish men knew...

English: Love QuestionEnglish: Love Question (Photo credit: Wikipedia)Collier's Magazine -- May 29, 1948 .....item 1...Collier's Magazine -- May 29, 1948 .....item 1..Men, Women and Forgiveness (November 8, 2011 / 11 Cheshvan 5772) ... (Photo credit: marsmet542)Men often ask the question, “What do women want?” A wise person once answered, “If you want to know what women want, ask them… one at a time.”

Since that’s an impossible task for any man, I asked several single ladies to share what men really don’t know about them and what they look for in a date. Guys, you might find their answers surprisingly myth-busting in some instances, while others might validate what you already believe. Either way, hopefully these insights will give you the inside track on understanding women better and improving your dating skills:

1. You risk it all if you wait forever to reach out to a woman who interests you.
2. Not all women who date are looking for a serious relationship.
3. You’d be surprised about what women find to be genuinely sexy in a man.
4. Being a cheapskate is a deal-breaker for women.
5. Women struggle to make a connection while remaining independent, too.
6. They call it “women’s intuition” because they are adept at reading nonverbal cues if something feels “off” with a date.
7. No woman wants to be your mother (or a carbon copy of her own).
8. It’s the little things that matter when it comes to impressing a woman.
9. Women are slower to end relationships than men, even short-term ones.

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Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Manila 2011: 5 Signs He's Not Really Into You

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There's a guy you totally fancy and whom you've been seeing for sometime. Yet there's something about him you can't put your finger on: He's kinda too busy with work, a tad too passive about your relationship, and not acting as besotted as he should be.

Or maybe he really isn't. It's a bitter pill to swallow, but better to know if he's wasting your time sooner rather than later. Here are five red flags that could confirm your doubts.

1. He's not trying to see you
Either he's the busiest guy on the planet or his sorry-I-got-to-work-on-weekends excuse is just that -- an excuse. How do you know for sure? Does he find time for his mates yet somehow not have time to meet up with you or talk on the phone? If the answer is yes, something is amiss. When it's always you who's doing the running, it's a clear indication that he's not all that committed to the relationship. "If a guy is into you, he will find time to make a call and catch up," says Lexi Proud, who is a dating expert for Arrange Me a Date.

2. You've not met his friends
It's not a good sign if he hasn't introduced you to his friends and family, especially after you have dated for some time. Just how long is too long to wait? Proud suggests asking questions if you've not met any of his friends by the three-month mark and if you've not met his family by six months. "If a guy is into you, generally they want you to meet their friends. After all, they should be proud to have you on their arm!"

3. He only sees you for sex
This is so painfully obvious that it's going to sound blunt. If this guy is only meeting up with you for a hook-up, he's only into your body, not you as a person. Get out, pronto.

4. He often lets you down
Does he frequently cancel plans you've made together because "something else" has cropped up? Be wary, especially if there's no reason for it, and if it's happening on a persistent basis -- it's a sure sign your relationship just isn't up there on his list of priorities.

5. He leaves you in doubt
Here's the simple universal truth about men: If a guy wants you, you'll know it. He won't leave you wondering about his behavior -- he'll call you, he'll ask you out, he'll want to be with you whenever he can. If all you get are lukewarm reactions from the guy, he's just not that into you. Period.




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Sunday, September 11, 2011

Manila 2011: 6 Facebook Relationship Etiquette Do's & Don'ts

Profile shown on Thefacebook in 2005Image via WikipediaWhen we're blissfully in love, it's tempting to let our friends and family in on the happy news via Facebook or Twitter. But just like in the real world, social networks have their own set of relationship etiquette and not everything about your love life should be published for the whole world to see.

It boils down to knowing what's socially acceptable to post on your Wall. Lisa Daily, dating coach and author of the bestselling book Stop Getting Dumped, offers advice on how to use Facebook responsibly around relationships. Don't be guilty of these -- or you could find yourself being unfriended or unfollowed.


  • Do post appropriate couple photos
  • Do keep your lovey-dovey messages private
  • Don't update your relationship status too early
  • Don't pretend to be single if you're not
  • Don't be too showy
  • Don't post snide comments about exes



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Friday, May 27, 2011

Global 2011: 98% of Women Say "This" Counts As Cheating

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About 92 percent of women said exchanging racy pictures over Twitter counts as cheating. The same amount said exchanging sexual tweets or direct messages did too.

But the one non-physical act almost all of the 2,000-plus women could agree on was good old-fashioned phone sex. Ninety-eight percent of Cosmo readers surveyed answered that a guy who had phone sex outside of a relationship was most definitely a cheater.

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/ninety-eight-percent-of-women-say-quot-this-quot-counts-as-cheating-2499918/;_ylt=AiLFjJr1yqzdtXBvDUrfXySDbqU5


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Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Global 2011: Sex on the 1st date

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Every few years it feels like someone tries to make the case that sleeping together on a first date is a great plan. It seems like it should be, right? You have physical chemistry, all the hot "newness" and everything that entails, so why not? We also all know the friend who DID sleep with her man on their first date, and now they're happily married with three kids and a blissful sex life that is both loving and hot.

Personally, sleeping together on a first date would make me wonder how many other girls he had done that with. While it does (and can) happen, those who practice it often don't end up with the person they boinked on the first date. Is that because of the sex? Hard to say. But the more times you sleep with someone the first time, the more people you have slept with overall in your life.

Besides, isn't sex just better when you know the person? Sure, we all get lustful and lord knows I made some mistakes back in college along those lines, but it's also important that we don't put ourselves into positions we didn't want to be in. This is equal opportunity! It's not just that he won't respect us, but also that we might not respect him.

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/sex-on-the-1st-date-still-isnt-respectable-in-2011-2499395/;_ylt=AjnOjhK7vq7CYSXbJB9KiRIIb6U5


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Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Global 2011: 4 ways to find more time to date

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You sincerely want to find a lifelong mate, really... but your schedule’s so jam-packed you just don’t have a moment to spare. Sound familiar? No question about it, dating is time-consuming. As a dating coach, I hear complaints all the time from men and women about being too busy to carve out the time required to invest in the search. The excuses include: I’m too busy at work, I’m too busy being a single parent, I’m too busy traveling, exercising, commuting, fixing my house, etc. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Here’s how to refocus on love with four tips that will help you find more time to date — and be more efficient doing it.

Tip #1: Find your number
Tip #2: Challenge your perspective
Tip #3: Try the triage approach
Tip #4: Stop wasting your time!

http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=6266&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=737601


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Thursday, February 17, 2011

Global 2011: 21 phrases to use to help you FIGHT RIGHT with your sweetheart

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Here are twenty-one phrases that help turn down the heat of anger:


  1. Please try to understand my point of view.
  2. Wait, can I take that back?
  3. You don’t have to solve this—it helps me just to talk to you.
  4. This is important to me. Please listen.
  5. I overreacted, I’m sorry.
  6. I see you’re in a tough position.
  7. I can see my part in this.
  8. I hadn’t thought of it that way before.
  9. I could be wrong.
  10. Let’s agree to disagree on that.
  11. This isn’t just your problem, it’s our problem.
  12. I’m feeling unappreciated.
  13. We’re getting off the subject.
  14. You’ve convinced me.
  15. Please keep talking to me.
  16. I realize it's not your fault.
  17. That came out all wrong.
  18. I see how I contributed to the problem.
  19. What are we really fighting about?
  20. How can I make things better?
  21. I’m sorry.
  22. I love you.


http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/21-phrases-to-use-to-help-you-fight-right-with-your-sweetheart-2455249/


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Monday, February 7, 2011

Global 2011: Are Commitment and Exclusivity The Same?

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We figured that exclusive simply meant that there was no hooking up with anyone else allowed: no making out, no dating.

Our theory on commitment was that it evolves slowly, long after exclusivity.

"If I'm committed, I'm picking your dad up from the airport."

Commitment is when lives are intertwined so much that your lives become one unified life.

To summarize, here are the signs to look for at each stage:


How to know you're "Exclusive"


  1. You Agree About it Through Conversation



How You Know You're Committed


  1. You've Been Dating a Significant Amount Of Time
  2. You've Each Met Immediate Family and Best Friends
  3. You're "Living Together" In Some Form
  4. There Are Unspoken Expectations




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Monday, January 31, 2011

Global 2011: 6-Step Masturbation Guide

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Can I ask you a personal question? Do you masturbate? If you don't, you should. Masturbation can relax and de-stress you. It can also improve sexual relations with your partner by showing them what turns you on. And masturbation can satisfy you when your partner is at another one of those late dinner meetings or out of town.

But perhaps you don't tickle your taco or beat your beaver because you think it's gross. Or maybe you don't think that you have the time for it. If so, you should reconsider it because I think masturbating is part of taking care of yourself, like wearing sunscreen or eating quinoa.

Here's a how-to guide to help you help pleasure yourself, whether you've never done it or have done it a thousand times before:

Step 1: Set yourself up in a relaxing environment.

Step 2: Take the time to get comfortable.

Step 3: Think about what kind of session you’re in the mood for and arrange whatever accessories you might need: a vibrator or clitoral massager? Some lube? How about a little erotica or some mood music?

Step 4: Take a few deep breaths and slowly reacquaint your mind with your body. Touch yourself.

Step 5: Hopefully you’re a little worked up by now. Pick up the pace, your lube (if you need it), and your toys. Spend some time trying out what feels best for you.

Step 6: You're coming? Let your body take over and have that orgasmic release you've been waiting for. Allow time for the aftershocks to play out and let all of your muscles enjoy being relaxed for a change.

http://thestir.cafemom.com/love_sex/115588/my_v_day_gift_to


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Thursday, January 27, 2011

Global 2011: 5 Signs He's About to Propose

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Want to know if you could be getting engaged soon? Here, the sneaky hints that your boyfriend is about to put a ring on it.

1. He's extra helpful.
2. He talks himself up.
3. He acts like you just started dating.
4. He quizzes you.
5. He's really concerned about the details.



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Saturday, December 25, 2010

Global 2010: 15 Ways To Dazzle On Your First Date

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Former Bachelor hottie Matt Grant (yes, he’s the British one!) knows a thing or two about women. Especially after his stint trying to date 25 of them at the same time — on television, no less. “When I was on the show The Bachelor, I remember how overwhelming it was to have 25 women with one objective — to win over ME — coming at me from the limos. Some definitely made a stronger impact than others. What things stood out to me, you

Here, Matt offers all you future Match.com “catches” his fresh-from-the-dating-field advice, divulging what really he’s found works when it comes to making your meet-and-greet time with someone new truly memorable. So, go on and snag that “first impression” rose… or, at least, a second date!

1. Don’t be more than five minutes late.
2. Watch your breath.
3. Speaking of breath, remember to B-R-E-A-T-H-E.
4. Turn that frown upside down.
5. Wear date-appropriate attire.
6. Listen up!
7. Don’t try too hard.
8. Watch the heavy makeup.
9. Tell your date about yourself but leave some mystery, too.
10. Maintain eye contact.
11. Watch the catty remarks about other women.
12. Keep your technology toys hidden.
13. Don’t talk about your last relationship.
14. Ask questions that show you’re interested.
15. Be diplomatic about the check.

http://yahoo.match.com/magazine/article0.aspx?articleid=12067


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Monday, November 29, 2010

Global 2010: 4 tips for spicing up date night

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When love is new, it’s hard to imagine that it ever won’t be — that a time might come when the question, “What do you want to do tonight?” could be met with a stare of boredom. But the truth is that as electric as your relationship might be in those first initial months, you will inevitably become more comfortable with each other, which is a good thing. That comfortable feeling indicates that a couple has moved into the “attachment” phase of their relationship in which feelings of intimacy and safety deepen. But it’s also the time when couples can slide into thrill-dampening Friday night routines. Falling into the cycle of repetitive “date nights” that play out like old reruns is an easy trap to fall into as a couple. But recent research on how the brain changes when you’re in love suggests that adding novelty to your date nights helps keep both of you feeling the same excitement you did when you first fell for each other.

1. Variety, variety, variety

2. Take turns planning your date nights

3. Go out without a plan

4. Go where no man has been before…or at least, neither of you

http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=11810&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=709673


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Monday, November 22, 2010

Global 2010: His Surprising First-Date Fears

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As cool as most guys try to play it your first time out together, chances are he's probably just as nervous as you are. We got experts to spill on the little things that secretly stress him out.

1. That you'll be different from what he's expecting.

2. He won't be the only one you're interested in.

3. He'll touch you too soon.

4. You won't give him another date.

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Friday, September 10, 2010

Manila 2010: 5 reasons he didn’t call you

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When it comes to off-putting dating behavior, men commit plenty of dumb moves. He wears sneakers at a nice restaurant. He goes on and on about his boring job.

But what about those cases where the guy does win you over… and yet never calls again? Have you ever stopped to wonder what went wrong? While you might think winning a man’s heart largely boils down to your looks, you’re wrong. Below are five key things that well-intentioned women do that make men bail. Keep them in mind as you search for your Mr. Right

Reason #1: You talk, but don’t listen
Women are sharers. It’s culturally ingrained. You may talk to your best friend or mom five times a day and think nothing of it. Every detail is relevant, and nothing can be left out in the telling of a story. Problem is, men don’t generally communicate that way. So try to consider the ebb and flow of a normal conversation. And if it’s occurred to you that you haven’t yet learned a thing about your date, try listening for a bit. It’s not that we’re not interested in getting to know you, it’s that we’d be thrilled if you were interested in getting to know us, too.

Reason #2: You use conversation as therapy
Talking about your evil ex-boyfriend. Talking about your hatred of your job. Talking about your strained relationship with your mother. It’s not that the bad stuff is irrelevant, it’s that it’s inappropriate. 

Reason #3: You’re a little too enthusiastic about him 
There’s an unwritten rule in dating that governs the energy flow between a man and a woman: when one party tries too hard, the other party pulls back. If a stranger has ever bought you a costly gift on the first date or called you seven times the day after you had coffee, you know what I mean. We’re not saying you should act cold; just don’t get carried away in front of him. 

Reason #4: Your idea of chit-chat is politics, religion and other heavy topics
Hey, if your date is up for a surprise appearance on Meet the Press, that’s cool. Just know that not everybody likes to swim in the deep end of the pool so early. Sometimes, you’re better off sticking with banter about favorite travel spots or good movies or even funny online dates from the past. It’s not that intellectual topics should be off-limits, but until you know where someone lands on the political spectrum, you may want to tread lightly. 

Reason #5: You’re not relating to him — you’re testing him
Dating should be fun. Getting to know a fascinating stranger, sharing information about yourself to an interested date… these are the things that keep us optimistic about the process. Where it all goes wrong is when you inadvertently turn him into a defendant and yourself into the prosecuting attorney. “How long was your last relationship?” “Where do you see yourself in two years?” “Do you want kids someday?” Try reading between the lines instead of asking him these things point-blank. 


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Saturday, July 10, 2010

Global 2010: 8 Things Guys Notice About You Instantly

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You know that look where his eyes slide past you...then turn back? Wouldn’t it be great to know what stopped him? You totally can. “There are a few things men instantly observe when they meet a woman,” says Jackie Black, PhD, author of Meeting Your Match. Learn what they are and you can maximize your, um, assets. Then you’ll have your pick.

1. How Thick Your Hair Is
2. If Your Smile Is Genuine
3. The Size of Your Group
4. The Pitch of Your Voice
5. Your Hip-to-Waist Ratio
6. Your Glowiness
7. What’s Fake About You
8. Your Eyes



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