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Sunday, December 16, 2012

Global 2012: 'The Hobbit': Bilbo Bags Record $85M in U.S. Box Office Debut

The Hobbit (2012 film) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

"The Hobbit: An Unexpected Journey" launched Peter Jackson's new trilogy with the biggest December box-office opening ever in the U.S., taking in $85 million in three days.

Jackson's prequel to the blockbuster "Lord of the Rings" series, the first of three installments, shattered the record for biggest December debut set in 2007 by "I Am Legend" with $77.2 million. The overall box office was the highest ever for a December weekend at $134 million, and was up 14 percent over the comparable weekend last year.

It's been nine years since moviegoers have had the chance to revisit Middle-earth and they were glad to be back, giving "The Hobbit" an "A" CinemaScore. The film is directed by Jackson and stars Ian McKellen as the wizard, Gandalf, and Martin Freeman as the titular hobbit, Bilbo Baggins. New Line and Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer co-produced and co-financed the film.

The "Lord of the Rings" movies all opened the week before Christmas, but Warner Bros. head of distribution Dan Fellman said the studio saw an opportunity with "The Hobbit" to get a jump on the holiday season.

"You sort of lead with your chin when you go out early like this," Fellman told TheWrap, "but we knew we had a great picture, and we think we're set up to build on this from here. Next week is tricky since it's still pre-holiday, but by the time we get to Christmas we'll be rolling."

Fellman said one of the goals was to attract a new generation of Middle-earth fans, and the numbers suggest that could happen. The audience was 42 percent under 25 years of age and 57 percent males.

Fellman noted that school's are generally still not out for the holiday break and that, combined with the "A+" CinemaScore that moviegoers under 18 – who made up 20 percent of the audience – gave the film point to the potential to capitalize on younger audiences in the coming weeks.

The debut by "The Hobbit" is bigger than any of the "Rings" movies, including the franchise finale "The Return of the King," which opened to $72.6 million domestically in 2003.

"The Hobbit" is benefiting from a higher mark-up on 3D tickets. It is the first adaptation of the beloved J.R.R. Tolkien books to arrive in theaters in that format, which accounted for 3,160 of the total 4,045 screens and made up 49 percent of the overall gross. The per-location average overall was nearly $21,000. The 326 Imax locations brought in $10.1 million, averaging more than $30,000 per theater over the three days.

About 460 theaters showed "The Hobbit" in the groundbreaking but controversial 48 frame-per-second format -- which doubles the standard film speed and provides more clarity -- that Jackson utilized when he shot the movie. Between the high-speed film, 3D and Imax versions and combinations of those formats, moviegoers had six available options for viewing "The Hobbit." Imax screens playing the film in the 48 fps format averaged $44,000 per location.

Friday's grosses for "The Hobbit" were swelled by the $13 million in sales from midnight screenings at 3,100 locations, 2,160 of which were 3D.

Finishing a distant No. 2 was DreamWorks' animated kids movie "Rise of the Guardians," which brought in $7.4 million to up its overall domestic total after four weeks to $71 million.

In its sixth week, DreamWorks and Disney's Oscar front-runner "Lincoln' brought in $7.2 million to raise its overall domestic total to nearly $108 million. Sony's James Bond thriller "Skyfall," also in its sixth week, finished fourth with $7 million. It has taken in $272 million domestically.

Fox's Oscar hopeful "Life of Pi" added $5.4 million this weekend. Director Ang Lee's lyrical epic has taken in nearly $70 million after four weeks.

http://movies.yahoo.com/news/hobbit-bilbo-bags-record-85m-u-box-office-165805553.html

Global 2012: Donaire blasts Arce into retirement

Donaire/Julaton/Donaire (Photo credit: Matt Ortega)

How about that for a little Filipino payback?

One week after Mexico's Juan Manuel Marquez knocked out Filipino legend Manny Pacquiao with one shot with one second left in the sixth round in a stunner, junior featherweight titlist Nonito Donaire evened the score in what is fast becoming boxing's best nationalistic rivalry.

Donaire, known as "The Filipino Flash," annihilated Mexico's Jorge Arce with a crushing third-round knockout -- with one second left in the round, on a huge left hook -- to retain his junior featherweight world title on Saturday night at the Toyota Center.

"I have a lot of respect for Mexico," Donaire said. "I hope I made the Philippines proud tonight."

Before a crowd of 7,250 -- largely made up of Hispanic fans rooting for Arce -- Donaire was dominant in retaining his 122-pound title for the third time and sending Arce into retirement.

With the victory, Donaire completed an impressive year that makes him the favorite to land fighter of the year honors. In an era when top pound-for-pound fighters rarely fight more than twice annually, Donaire (31-1, 20 KOs) fought four times in 2012 and easily beat four quality opponents as he moved up to junior featherweight and won two world title belts.

"I will leave it to the sportswriters and I will leave it to the people," Donaire said of the award. "It would be a great honor, and it would be an amazing Christmas gift to me."

In February, after giving up his bantamweight belts, Donaire moved up to 122 pounds, then promptly knocked down Wilfredo Vazquez Jr. and won a decision to claim a vacant belt.

Then, Donaire rolled past Jeffrey Mathebula, scoring a knockdown, breaking his jaw and winning a lopsided decision to unify two titles in July. Donaire later gave up one of the belts but followed with a two-knockdown, ninth-round stoppage of former titleholder Toshiaki Nishioka in October.

Then, Donaire blew away former titleholder Arce.

"I pretty much timed Arce," Donaire said. "I knew he would open up. He hurt me a little. My left hand is not completely healed. I needed to figure out the distance to get him to open up."

Donaire came into the fight with a balky left hand due to a nagging injury to a knuckle. He cut it open against Vazquez and did it again against Nishioka two months ago. Some in his camp didn't want him to take the Arce bout, but Donaire elected to fight, no doubt influenced at least somewhat by a career-high payday of $1 million coming his way.

"A lot of people said, 'You fought well this year.' I asked the doctor about my hand and he said it's not going to be 100 percent, but that I could fight if I was comfortable," Donaire said. "Tonight it didn't bleed, but I was kind of worried about it."

He needn't have been concerned. Donaire measured Arce for a right hand in the first round that landed clean, but Arce took it well. In the second round, though, Donaire knocked him down for the first of three overall in the fight.

Donaire landed a right-left combination as Arce went down a minute into the second round. In the third round, Donaire dropped him again with a right hand and a left uppercut. There seemed to be little chance that Arce would make it out of the round, but he wasn't about to give up.

He waded back into the battle, and Donaire unleashed a savage left hook that landed flush on Arce's chin. Arce crashed into ropes and then sprawled onto his back. Referee Laurence Cole didn't bother to finish the count, calling off the fight at 2 minutes, 59 seconds.

"I was a lot faster than Arce," Donaire said. "He knew I was a powerful fighter. He knew every mistake he would make would be a tremendous mistake, but Arce is a great fighter. It was difficult for me to get him in the beginning because he was wary of the left hook and he was ducking out of the way.

"The reason why people survive with me is because they are afraid to open up. I have a lot of respect for him. He wasn't afraid. He was aiming to surprise me. But when I can throw sitting down on that left hook, everyone will go down."

Arce came into the fight having rehydrated all the way up to 135 pounds, while Donaire weighed 129, according to HBO's fight-night scale. But Donaire still looked bigger and his punches clearly harder.

Arce was down for a couple of minutes as the doctors checked on him. When he was able to get himself together, he announced his retirement in his postfight interview with 81-year-old Larry Merchant, who was calling the final fight of his 35-year career with HBO.

The 33-year-old Arce (61-7-2, 46 KOs) earned a career-high $800,000, and if this is truly the end for him, he went out like the warrior he always has been. But he simply couldn't deal with the power, speed and size advantages of Donaire, 30, who lives in San Leandro, Calif.

Arce will go out having been one of the most exciting fighters of his generation and having won world titles in four weight classes (junior flyweight, junior bantamweight, bantamweight and junior featherweight), plus an interim belt in another (flyweight).

"My career is over. He is the best man," said Arce, who is good pals with Donaire. "I have a family to take care of. I promised them I would leave the ring if I lost. He's very good. I am proud to have lost to the best. It fills me with honor.

"I will go home to watch the fighters on TV and to be a commentator."

There is a chance Donaire will move up to featherweight after having already won titles at flyweight, bantamweight and junior featherweight, plus an interim title at junior bantamweight. There are still attractive opponents at junior featherweight, however, in fellow titleholders Guillermo Rigondeaux and Abner Mares.

Rigondeaux (11-0, 8 KOs), the former two-time Olympic gold medalist, was supposed to continue to try to make his case for a fight with Donaire in the co-feature in a defense against former titleholder Poonsawat Kratingdaenggym (48-2, 33 KOs) of Thailand. However, the fight was canceled on Thursday after Kratingdaenggym failed a prefight blood test and was refused a license by the Texas Department of Licensing and Regulation. Instead, Rigondeaux sat ringside.

Mares is represented by Golden Boy Promotions, while Donaire is with Top Rank. The companies don't work together, making it very difficult to arrange the match.

Donaire said he is ready to fight either man, even though he might also go to 126 pounds and pursue another world title.

"Bring 'em all on," Donaire said. "Mares is my first choice because he's calling me out, but we have Rigondeaux ready if that fight cannot be made."

Whomever he fights, Donaire will find himself in another significant main event in 2013 as he continues to try to polish his pound-for-pound résumé.

That left hook of his has already brought him near the top.

"I sat down on it, and when I sit down on that left hook, I will knock out anybody," Donaire said.

http://espn.go.com/boxing/story/_/id/8751136/nonito-donaire-blasts-friend-jorge-arce-retirement

Thursday, December 13, 2012

Global 2012: Pacquiao-Mayweather superfight dream dies

Manny Pacquiao vs. Shane Mosley (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Juan Manuel Marquez carried more than eight years of frustration, disappointment and anger with him when he got into the ring with Manny Pacquiao on Saturday at the MGM Grand Garden.

After losing two and drawing one in three fights he had a right to believe he won, the bigger and stronger version of Marquez left no doubt this time around.

He concluded one of the year's best fights in stunningly brutal fashion, catching Pacquiao on the chin with a perfectly placed counter right hand, knocking the Filipino superstar out cold at 2:59 of the sixth round before an arena packed with his delirious fans.

It was the same right hand that Marquez landed repeatedly in their first three fights, shots that did little damage to Pacquiao. But after a year of building his body with conditioning coach Angel Guillermo "Memo" Heredia, Marquez had the zip he needed on his fastball to get the job done.

"We knew he was going to come out aggressive, so we had a fight plan that was more technique and we were able to capitalize on it," said Marquez, who broke his nose from a Pacquiao left.

As Pacquiao lay prone on the mat and Marquez and his fans celebrated, somewhere, Floyd Mayweather Jr. had to be kicking himself. The world's top boxer failed to sign a fight with Pacquiao that would have been the richest bout of all-time, haggling over seemingly minor issues with so much money at stake.

While it's not out of the question that Mayweather and Pacquiao could still fight, the bout will never have the kind of luster it had when they were 1-2 in the rankings and both seemingly invincible.

Mayweather's one-time close friend, hip hop star Curtis "50 Cent" Jackson, knew as referee Kenny Bayless attended to Pacquiao that it was equivalent to flushing millions down the drain.

"That was a lot of money [going away]," he said.

The knockout also will be sure to raise numerous questions about how Marquez got so much bigger. Heredia is an admitted steroids dealer whose testimony during the Bay Area Laboratory Co-Operative case put track coach Trevor Graham in jail.

Marquez defiantly insisted all week that his work was natural, and he didn't address it on Saturday.

Rather, he was in the mood for a celebration after the biggest win of a sensational career. Marquez has been among the world's elite fighters for at least the past 15 years, but he's been forced to take a backseat, first to Mexican stars such as Marco Antonio Barrera and Erik Morales and later to Pacquiao.

Few fighters were as skilled and technically sound, but he didn't capture the imagination of the fans the way his rivals did.

But on Saturday, when he ended a sensational back-and-forth battle in which both men had been hurt and hit the canvas, they were jubilantly on his side.

The fighters were true to their pre-fight promises to attack. Pacquiao made an adjustment and was able to keep his lead foot on the outside of Marquez's lead foot. As a result, Pacquiao was able to rake Marquez with a series of hard straight lefts.

When Marquez went down in the fifth round, it was the fifth time in the four fights Pacquiao had decked him.

This time, though, there was a difference. Marquez had the ability to blunt Pacquiao's attack with power of his own, which he lacked the first three fights.

He floored Pacquiao in the third with a right hand and wobbled him several other times.

And even though Pacquiao was ahead on the scorecards – all three judges had it 47-46 for Pacquiao – Marquez was always confident.

"I never thought he was going to beat me," Marquez said. "I was coming strong. He connected with me hard, he got me good, but I was falling. But I was ready to push hard through the later rounds."

http://sports.yahoo.com/news/boxing--pacquiao-mayweather-superfight-dream-dies-juan-manuel-marquez-gets-closure-085101776.html

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Global 2012: Should Manny Pacquiao Retire?

Manny Pacquiao vs Juan Manuel Marquez (Photo credit: audiovisualjunkie)

It's hard not to talk retirement when you see a fighter face first on the canvas with worried loved ones frantically pushing their way to the ring.

This is true, even for Mr.Everything, Manny Pacquiao, who has made a career of doing the impossible and whose life story is a testament to the idea that, sometimes, the underdog does win.

The Filipino icon managed to pull himself out of one of the poorest slums in the world and, with just his two bare fists and the burning will of a fighter, build an empire of riches that few can even imagine. At thirty-three years of age, Pacquiao has accomplished what few could even dream of doing. And, as a fighter, he has punched his way to all-time great status and a first ballot Hall of Fame entry as one of this generation's very best.

With so much accomplished and so many roads traveled, both literally and figuratively, Saturday's brutal knockout loss to arch-rival, Juan Manuel Marquez, seems like the perfect jumping off point for a stellar seventeen year career.

It's not like Manny will be dead broke without the fight game. Although, surely, the eight-figure paydays twice a year would be missed, the man has his Congressman pay, various TV and movie deals, real estate investments, and the easy work of big-money endorsements. Even without boxing, the Pacquiao empire should be just fine-- Unless, of course, the rumors of him being relatively cash-poor are true.

Professionally, any fighter would be sporting a bruised ego if forced to retire after two consecutive losses. And, in Manny's case, the two losses were especially tough.

Losing a controversial split decision to Timothy Bradley is one thing, but getting knocked unconscious by long-time nemesis, Juan Manuel Marquez-- in a bout he was actually winning up until the last punch-- has to be especially vexing for the eight-division world champ.

But looking back on a long and distinguished career, one has to wonder what's left for Pacquiao to accomplish. Perhaps a righting of the wrong via rematch with Bradley and, possibly, another run at Marquez to settle this latest, most crushing of defeats. Then what?

Outside of Bradley and the 39-year-old Marquez, who may be retired by the time Pacquiao gets around to setting up a rematch, there's not much else. The bubble has been burst on the hope of a Mayweather bout and while it's possible to push new generation guys like Brandon Rios in his path, these aren't the guys Pacquiao wants at this stage of his career.

For the record, though, Pacquiao has already told the media that he plans on returning to the sport that made him a national hero and a worldwide celebrity.

"To all my fans, I would like to thank you for your prayers and assure you that I am fine," Pacquiao told the media just hours after his crushing KO 6 defeat at the MGM Grand in Las Vegas. "I am looking forward to a nice rest and then I will be back to fight."

The fact of the matter is that Manny Pacquiao should retire. He has nothing more to accomplish in boxing and, as a human being, he has already done more in one lifetime than most can even dream of attempting.

But Manny Pacquiao is a fighter at heart-- A warrior. And warriors rarely retire to a nice, quiet suburban life while red-hot blood is still flowing through their veins. To a warrior, life is about the battle. Unfortunately, this is the reason so many boxers wind up staying in the sport too long, suffering damage that was ultimately unnecessary.

In the case of Manny Pacquiao, it's hard to argue that he should hang up the gloves when he can still beat 95% of the fighters out there. It's understandable that the fire would still burn bright. But, as a father, husband, and trusted politician, maybe it's time to focus on other things.

http://sports.yahoo.com/news/manny-pacquiao-retire-180200654--box.html

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Global 2012: Manny Pacquiao Knocked Out by Juan Manuel Marquez

English: Manny Pacquiao, right before the Erik Morales fight. (original text) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Juan Manuel Marquez absolutely crushed Manny Pacquiao with a straight right hand at the end of the sixth round of their epic fourth fight, sending him careening to the canvas, face down and unconscious, and scoring a massive victory that completely alters the state of boxing today.

In Pacquiao's last fight, the controversial outcome led to a wave of outcry and attention. Here, the outcome is decisive, but even more buzz-worthy. The Pacquiao vs. Marquez results were brutally shocking, leaving everybody watching the fight, ringside or at home, shaking their head in awe and surprise.

Many people were siding with Marquez to win the fight, including myself, but a knockout victory was completely off the table. Yet, in boxing, one punch can change everything, and a pinpoint Marquez right hand did just that.

The official time of the stoppage for the Pacquiao vs. Marquez results was at 2:59 of Round 6, ending a back-and-forth battle that had already seen each man touch the canvas. Marquez knocked Pacquiao down in the Round 3, and Pacquiao returned the favor in Round 5, in a spectacular round of action.

In the sixth, Pacquiao seemed to be taking control of the fight. Marquez had blood streaming from his nose and splattered all over his face, and seemed to be in increasingly serious trouble.

However, just a tick before the bell, Marquez landed that monster counter right hand. Pacquiao was instantly out. The fight was waved off, and Pacquiao remained motionless for several minutes afterward. Eventually, Pacquiao would sit up on the canvas, in a clear state of disbelief and disgust.

All three judges had the fight scored 47-46 for Pacquiao at the time of the stoppage, as did I when I was watching the fight. He had clearly won the first two rounds before he suffered the knockdown, and then was assuming control of the fight before that thunderous right hand landed.

For Marquez, it's the biggest win of his career, the culmination of eight years of close calls, near misses and mental anguish, and a likely Knockout of the Year as well.

As for Pacquiao, in the build-up to this fight, I wondered what would happen if Marquez won the fight. The two most likely outcomes were that a Pacquiao vs. Marquez 5 fight would take place, or that Pacquiao would retire. Never though did I imagine that Marquez would win via a brutal one-punch knockout.

After the fight, Pacquiao seemed hesitant to commit to anything when interviewed by Larry Merchant. However, he did seem open to yet another match taking place between the two legendary rivals.

The Pacquiao vs. Marquez results provide a huge jolt to the boxing landscape. Everything will be radically different moving ahead, in terms of which fighters are at the top and regarded as untouchable, and which are further down the totem pole.

The fight and the knockout were reminiscent to me of when Roy Jones, who was a commentator for Pacquiao-Marquez 4 coincidentally, got laid out by Antonio Tarver in their rematch. It was a sudden and dramatic one punch ending not only to a fight, but to an aura of invincibility, and it was an immediate line of demarcation for when a legendary fighter no longer had it.

If Pacquiao chooses to continue fighting, he'll still be one of the best fighters in the world. But he will no longer be "Manny Pacquiao", pound for pound champion.

Tonight will be a night that boxing fans, hardcore and casual, will always remember. The image of Pacquiao face down on the canvas, Marquez himself in disbelief standing on the other side of the ring, is something I'll never forget.

http://sports.yahoo.com/news/manny-pacquiao-knocked-juan-manuel-marquez-epic-fourth-063400880--box.html

Monday, December 10, 2012

Global 2012: 6 things women love about men

Love ? I love love love you. (Photo credit: @Doug88888)

Guys, have you ever worried you don’t have that elusive something that women crave? Perhaps you think you lack a devil-may-care attitude that the ladies love, or that you don’t have a Jon Stewart-esque wit that would win someone’s heart. Relax! We spoke to relationship experts and women across the country and learned that those attributes men believe are impressive just don’t cut it. In fact, the qualities that attract women may surprise you... and, chances are, you possess at least one of them. Learn how to embrace these six traits for dating success.

1. She loves that you’re a man of few words
It’s no secret that women love to communicate with the men in their lives. “Women like to connect, and when that happens, they will melt,” says Emerson E. Eggerichs, Ph.D., author of Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs. Of course, when most men hear that, they cringe, thinking it means long, drawn-out talks about every feeling either of you has ever had since you met. Wrong! According to Dr. Eggerichs, women don’t need lots of verbiage from men. The truth is, your lady can get the same communication from you via eye contact — without a single word being uttered. Simply stand face-to-face with her, look into her eyes, and show your affection with a simple physical gesture — say, holding her arm or caressing her face. “It’s in their very nature for women to want you to look at them,” Dr. Eggerichs explains. “Infant girls make eye contact with adults who are around them, while boys make eye contact but look away if there’s a mobile, ceiling fan or anything else to distract them overhead.” Cultivate your connection with a little unabashed eye contact, and you’ll be on the fast track to winning her heart.

2. She loves your hairy body — really!
Wait, she likes your what?! That’s right, go ahead and cancel that back-waxing appointment. A study at the Zoological Society of San Diego (of people, not animals) revealed that women are more attracted to men with furry bodies, regardless of the silhouette. Scientists theorize that body hair advertises good health and active hormones, making it a positive sign in the selection of a mate. For further proof, just listen to Laura McNeely of Spring, TX: “I always love noticing that a guy, especially a clean-cut one, has a little bit of chest hair sticking up out of his Oxford shirt. It’s like saying, ‘I may have an uptight job, but there’s a caveman lurking inside.’”

3. She loves your unnatural emotional attachment to your favorite sports team
Most men learn by their teens to downplay their obsession with professional sports in front of the ladies. But dating coach David Wygant says that revealing certain elements of your big-league insanity to a woman will make her feel more connected to you. “Men try to hide when our eyes get all wet during the last 30 seconds of a game or when we see our fellow men get all emotional on the sidelines, but after a long season, we need that emotional release,” Wygant says. And the truth is, women would rather see you get sappy over sports than never see you act mushy at all — it lets them know there’s a sensitive guy underneath. And if you are prone to hugging your friends after your team wins? You just added some bonus points!

4. She loves when you act tough
While women often want an evolved, emotionally available man these days, putting a little “wild man” demeanor into your repertoire can equal popularity on the dating scene. “Most women want bad-boy qualities so they don’t have to act perfect all the time,” says Nancy Slotnick, author of Turn Your Cablight On: Get Your Dream Man in 6 Months or Less. After all, if a woman is afraid to be anything less than perfect in front of you, your relationship will be stifled and you’ll both end up bored. Anne Giddens of Wilmington, NC, adds: “A lot of guys are total gentlemen on dates, so being with someone who mouths off a bit shows that he’ll protect me if something happens. And that, in turn, makes me feel girlie and taken care of. It’s a total turn-on.” Hint at your bad-boy side by being slightly protective of your girl when someone else talks to her, suggesting thrill-type dates — which can increase adrenaline production and promote physical attraction — or simply planning a date without consulting her (spontaneity in general is a good thing). Of course, don’t do anything that’s actually disrespectful or dangerous — that’s not the kind of bad-boy behavior anyone wants.

5. She loves your artistic side
You don’t need a massive paycheck to appeal to the ladies. They actually find the “I’m working on a screenplay” lifestyle alluring. One study found that artists and poets had experienced a total of 4-10 romantic partners, while people with less creative jobs had three. According to the study’s author, Daniel Nettle, Ph.D., a psychology lecturer at Newcastle University in the UK, creative people tend to be charismatic and their artistic pursuits are particularly interesting to others. The study also found that the number of romantic partners an artsy type had increased when he spent more time on creative, right-brained pursuits. And you don’t have to be a starving artist to appeal to women. Even if you’re an investment analyst, you might play the saxophone on the side. So flaunt that hobby — women dig guys with creativity.

6. She loves your geeky electronics obsession
Your wall of speaker cords. Your closet full of video games. Your wireless universe. Believe it or not, the very things that women roll their eyes about can also be the things that draw them in, too. “When a guy shows a woman some new gadget, it shows his intelligence,” says Andrea Miller, founder and CEO of YourTango.com, an online magazine about love, dating and sex. “It’s also always attractive when someone has a passion.” May Beach from Pine Hill, NJ, agrees: “Sometimes when I see my boyfriend working furiously at his laptop, it’s the most endearing thing,” she admits. “It’s like the difference between knowing a guy speaks a foreign language — ho-hum — and hearing him converse fluently in it — hot!” So don’t be afraid to share your excitement about a bit of computer hardware — just don’t expect her to stand in line overnight with you, waiting with bated breath for it to hit the shelves.

http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=6181&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=749836

Saturday, December 1, 2012

Global 2012: Husband Can't Get Over Pain Of Discovering Wife's Past

English: Created by Phil Scoville on June 25, 2005 Downloaded from: http://www.flickr.com/photos/philscoville/21528732/ This picture is free to share and remix with proper attribution under the following license: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0/ (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married for five years. I recently discovered that she made between 10 and 20 porn videos when she was 19. We got married when she was 27. We have four kids from two previous marriages.

I am devastated. When I confronted her about it, she cried harder than I had ever seen. She said she was lost, and it's the biggest regret of her entire life.

I understand how hard it can be to tell someone you have done something like this. I haven't led a perfect life either, and I have my own skeletons and things that I would never mention. But still, I can't get over this. I have never felt pain like this in my entire life and don't know what to do. I love my wife and don't want a divorce, but it haunts my every thought. We have had a great life and I trust her completely. What should I do to get over this? -- DEVASTATED IN THE U.S.A.

DEAR DEVASTATED: A giant step in the right direction would be to accept that you both had a history before you married each other, and you both have done things you aren't proud of. Then make a list of all the good things you have together, and forgive your wife for making some painful mistakes in the past that she was too ashamed to tell you. It certainly beats divorcing a woman you love over something she can't change. If that doesn't work, then you'd be wise to seek marriage counseling.

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